Parenting Course - Setting Basic Rules for Communication With Your Child by ParentTools

http://Parenttools.org has created a series of 6 videos designed to help frustrated parents with difficult teens. The information in the videos is applicable not only for parents dealing with difficult teens, but is an excellent resource for parents of children of all ages. In fact the sooner a parent starts using the techniques taught in these videos, the sooner they will see a positive impact with their children's behavior. This is the 4th of 5 sample clips from the 4th video in the series titled "Building Good Relationships & Rapport". Another thing parents can do to disengage conflicts is to call for a time out when they are frustrated and are about to say hurtful or argumentative things to their teen. Parents can say "I need you to go to your room and let me calm down so I don't say or do something that will be destructive to you or me. Go to your room and I will come talk to you when I am better composed". This process is even more effective when discussed in advance and there are no conflicts. Parents can say "There will be times that I may be very angry or emotionally charged over something and rather than react with giving you excessive consequences, I am going to need you to go to your room until I am able to discuss the problem or situation in a calm, rational manner..." Discussing this with the teen before hand, while explaining that the purpose is to avoid them getting excessive consequences will greatly foster their cooperation when they are asked to do a time out in order to disengage any arguments, explosive conflicts or potential conflicts. http://Parenttools.org is part of a non-profit organization that help parents learn how to be better parents.