Parenting Course - Effective Consequences For Teenagers by ParentTools

http://Parenttools.org has created a series of 6 videos designed to help frustrated parents with difficult teens. The information in the videos is applicable not only for parents dealing with difficult teens, but is an excellent resource for parents of children of all ages. In fact the sooner a parent starts using the techniques taught in these videos, the sooner they will see a positive impact with their children's behavior. This is the 5th of 5 sample clips from the 5th video in the series titled "Making Changes with Your Teen". The problem is that many teens have had things provided for them so well and for so long that they have very little concept of cause and effect. They have very little insight to what parents have to do to provide these things for them. And worse yet, they often start believing that they are entitled to what you are providing for them regardless of what they do or don't do. As long as a teen believes this, they will have no reason to renegotiate. In fact, their present negotiation may seem just fine to them, in which case, you need to determine which things you're going to provide no matter what. This should be like the basics, such as meals, shelter, hygiene, clothes, nurturing and emotional support. Then decide the things you are no longer going to provide unless your teen agrees to follow your Home rules and expectations AND show you respect. This may include allowance or any kind of funding, new clothing, transportation, use of computers or video games, phone privileges, new things they want, TV privileges, music privileges, friend privileges, extracurricular activities, participation in home activities, special outings. You then let your child know that in order to have any of these benefits or privileges, their going to need to agree to follow you Home rules and expectations. http://Parenttools.org is part of a non-profit organization that help parents learn how to be better parents.